Valentine’s day, in high school we used to say, is the day when the V meets the D. You read it right! Keep going…
It is by Grace that I am here and absolutely grateful. I wanted to boast a little about my past weaknesses so that Grace can be glorified.
So yea the V meets the D. We would say that very proudly as though we were the real entourage and nobody would tell us anything. Isn’t that what youthfulness is for anyway? Foolishness, idle talk and nonsense?
Satirically, Solomon says: “Young people, enjoy your youth. Be happy while you are still young. Do what you want to do, and follow your heart’s desire. But remember that God is going to judge you for whatever you do”.
Following traditions and cultures, or being forced to uphold them for that matter, is just not my forte! Also doing things and not knowing why I do them is something I’m not really keen on.
I want to know WHY concerning everything. It’s the only way I process things. Then the end and origin of things is equally important to me. What is the outcome of what I will do and where did this cause originate from.
One thing I now know for sure is, if many people are doing something, it is probably the wrong thing to do. If many people are going towards a certain direction, it is probably the wrong direction to take.
The right things to do 10/10 times receive resistance, are difficult, internally taxing and extremely scary. This path, even if full of uncertainties, is the path I gravitate towards. The straight and narrow. Whatever happens in between, Jesus is Lord. He always straightens the rugged roads.
ON VALENTINES DAY
I did not want to post this on the 14th of February, so that it doesn’t appear as though I’m trying to interfere with your program.
I wanted to wait until the chocolates are already in the sewage, wine has gone sour and the rose flowers are half-rotting away so that I can encourage you and show you this celebration is in no way expedient for you and you need not to break a sweat if you will.
In fact, If you didn’t get a valentines message do not be sad about it and if you are single during this time, Praise the Lord!
Otherwise, does it make sense to express appreciation and Love to people or somebody on a specific day?
That on the 14th of February, you pour out your heart and get someone a token of appreciation? This should be something we endeavour to do as many times as we possibly can?
When I find gaps in any matter, I start to become very curious and do my research.
I don’t believe in expressing Love on a single day more than any other day.
Love is a very serious commandment and actually a royal law. So for me, everyday, to those that are around you, express your Love. To those that are without reach, pray for them. That is Love too.
So I did my research, made some discoveries and I slapped my knee screaming “I KNEW IT”!!! Something was fishy!
ORIGINS OF VALENTINES DAY
During Lupercalia, the Luperci cut strips, also called thongs of Februa, of goat hide from the newly-sacrificed goats.
Then they would smear blood of the animals on foreheads of two naked Lupercis using the bloody sacrificial knife.
The men in the festival, while drunk, ran naked or nearly naked around a place they called Palantine.
There they whipped any woman within striking distance with bloody thongs while the women welcomed the lash whooping, bare skin. To receive what they deemed as a fertility rite.
In the end of the ceremony, the men randomly chose a woman’s name, from a jar, to couple up with them for the duration of the festival. The couple stayed until the following year’s festival, which is how most of them fell in love and got married.
THE NAME VALENTINE’S DAY
Later on, Emperor Claudius II executed two men both named Valentine on February 14th of different years in the 3rd century A.D.
Their martyrdom was honoured by the Catholic Church with the celebration of St. Valentine’s Day.
Pope Gelasius I, jumbled things up in the 5th century and combined St. Valentines Day with Lupercalia to expel the pagan rituals. From a drunken revel, he changed the festival to be the Feast of Saint Valentine in honour of him.
The day no longer associated with debauchery but instead romance. From here on courtly love took off and was intertwined with “lovebirds” of early spring.
England took this and ran with it and made it an occasion in which couples expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, confectionery and greeting cards.
The chosen symbols of Valentine’s Day were heart shaped outlines, doves and the winged Cupid.
Though Pope Gelasius I, did away with the rituals and turned it to a day of honouring a martyr and Love. This does not negate the origins of “fertility and love”. Otherwise our common phrase of “give credit where it’s due” will witness against us. No?
WHO IS THE FAMOUS CUPID?
Cupid meaning “desire”, is a mythical character identified as a Roman god of Love, a son of Mercury, the winged messenger of the gods and Venus the goddess of Love.
Allegedly, he is a counterpart of the Greek god Eros and the equivalent of Amor in Latin. Portrayed as a winged infant carrying a bow and quiver of arrows, he symbolizes the invincibility of love. They say his wounds inspire passion or love in his victims and is also sometimes deemed as a god of war.
He is the one they use as a symbol of Valentine’s Day.
From Paganism to Martyrdom to Capitalism
Valentine’s Day is a multi-billion dollar business. In the United States alone, people are estimated to have spent roughly 27.4$ billion and it is considered a ‘Hallmark holiday’ by many because of its commercialisation, and the focus on buying gifts.
I have never been (though I have eaten some chocolates previously) and don’t intend to be a fan of Valentine’s Day.
For me this is just confusion and negative energy.
Actually, there is so much more to say about it but let’s leave it at that.
When we have a chance, we should Love and appreciate people, for who they are, everyday.