Kindness and Hospitality-The hidden benefits

kindness and hospitality

Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate whereas hospitality is the friendly and generous reception and entertainment of guests, visitors, or strangers. Thanks to google dictionary.

There is a strange teaching today of “self” that has taken the millennial world by storm. Everywhere you browse on the internet, you will see “self-love”, “self-help”, “self-care”, “self-healing” and all the other selfies.

To some extent I support this. I believe you must fill your cup first before your pour out to others. However, where do we get to draw the line so that it does not become self centered?

One thing I know for sure is that life begins at the point of self mastery but the question here is do these “self” notions promote self mastery or self sensuality? Even self indulgence to our own detriment?

Wouldn’t it be nice to withdraw back to self in order to master yourself and find the best way to be self-less for the greater good of others?

Today I want us to see the spiritual benefits of being kind and hospitable. Perhaps you will be inspired to take a different approach.

For whatever you’re looking for in that “self-love”, “self-help”,”self-care” and “self-healing” you will find it in the stranger you LOVE, HELP, CARE FOR and HEAL with kindness.

“Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it”. 

“When you host a dinner or a banquet, do not invite your friends or brothers or relatives or rich neighbours.

Otherwise, they may invite you in return, and you will be repaid. 

But when you host a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind, and you will be blessed. Since they cannot repay you, you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.


kindness and hospitality
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By virtue of faith, Abraham showed kindness and hospitality to strangers who were angels of God. Out of kind service and hosting of the angels, a son was given to him at old age.

Through kindness and hospitality, Lot received angels in his house who warned him to leave the city of Sodom. Out of this, he was saved when the country was all round about destroyed by fire and brimstone.

In Lot’s case the Lord made it manifest that He will not forsake those that trust in Him. But will bring the disobedient to punishment and correction.

His wife who went out with him, being of a different mind, and not continuing in the same obedience, was for the reason set forth for an example, being turned into a pillar of salt to this day.

Lot's wife
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Lot’s wife was to teach us that those who are double minded and distrustful of the power of God, are prepared for condemnation and to be a sign to all succeeding ages.

By virtue of faith, Rahab the harlot, showed kindness and hospitality to Joshua the son of Nun. When the spies were sent by Joshua to search out Jericho, and the King of Jericho knew that they were coming to spy out, he sent men to take them, so that they may be put to death.

Rahab being kind and hospitable, she received them and hid them under the stalks of flax on the top of her house. When the messengers that were sent by the King came and asked for Joshua and the spies, she answered: “The two men whom you seek came here but presently they departed, and are gone”.

Then she told the spies, “I know that the Lord your God has given the city into your hands; for the fear of you is fallen upon all that dwell therein. When, therefore, you shall have taken it, you shall save me and my father’s house”.

They answered saying, It shall be as you have spoken to us. Therefore, when you see us near, gather your family together, upon the house top and they will be saved. All that will be found without the house, will be destroyed.

Rahab and Joshua
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They gave her a sign, that she should hang out of her house a scarlet rope, showing thereby, that by the blood of our Lord, there should be redemption to all that believe and hope in God.

By virtue of obedience, the widow at Zarephath, showed kindness and hospitality to Elijah in her house during a season of famine. She didn’t have much left except a handful of flour in a jar and a little olive oil in a jug. Her plan was to use this to prepare her last meal with her son and die.

Elijah instructed her to make a small loaf of bread for him and bring it before having something for herself and her son. She obeyed the prophet’s instructions and he prophesied saying: “the jar of flour will not be used up and the jug of oil will not run dry until the day the Lord sends rain on the land”.

Elijah and the widow at Zarephath

So there was food every day for Elijah and for the woman and her family. For the jar of flour was not used up and the jug of oil did not run dry, in keeping with the word of the Lord spoken by Elijah.

The widow was to teach us that in obedience and faith in God, coupled up with kindness and hospitality, even in the worst seasons of life such as famine, you will not be ashamed and will be satisfied. Also, “those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed”.

Through kindness and hospitality, a wealthy Shunamite woman delighted in serving the prophet Elisha some food whenever he passed by. Further she decided to make a small room on the roof of her house for him and furnished it so that whenever he came to the house, he would reside there.

One day, Elisha being grateful for her hospitality, asked her if there is anything she ever wished for but the woman, being so wealthy and comfortable with her position, had no idea she was in need of a son and her husband was of old age.

So Elisha knowing she needed a child, voluntarily decided to prophesy saying “At this season, about this time next year, you shall embrace a son”. She said, “No, my lord, O man of God; do not lie to your servant. But the woman conceived, and she bore a son about that time the following spring, as Elisha had said to her.

Later on the son died but was resurrected by the prophet.

Elisha and Shunnamite Woman

This was to teach us that the wealth of this world can make us oblivious to our need for Jesus Christ the son of man. Being wealthy we may do good deeds and show hospitality but it is in vain without faith in Jesus Christ.

She doubted the prophecy, God fulfilled it but later took away the son to help her understand what has been lacking in her life.

When the son died, she ran to the prophet and the prophet came and resurrected him.

We don’t think we need Jesus Christ, so He shows up in our lives anyway and suddenly disappears. When He is gone, we understand how important He is in our lives and we plead for Him to return and stay. “For I tell you that you will not see Me again until you say, ‘Blessed is He who comes in the name of the Lord”.


In a world where we are becoming more self-ish and cynical than ever and it is more plausible to attend to your “self” needs, care and wants more than others, let us try to reconsider our ways.

Be more kind, hospitable, caring and loving to the stranger that needs help. Do it discreetly with a shamefacedness as though they are doing you a favour by accepting your assistance. Most of the time that’s the way it is.

You never know who you may be dealing with and why you encounter the people that you do.

For I was hungry and you gave Me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave Me something to drink, I was a stranger and you took Me in, I was naked and you clothed Me, I was sick and you looked after Me, I was in prison and you visited Me‘.

Then the righteous will answer Him, “Lord, when did we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You something to drink”?

When did we see You a stranger and take You in, or naked and clothe You? When did we see You sick or in prison and visit You‘?

And the King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of Mine, you did for Me‘.

I gave you an example here and told you, your freedom is attached to the people you will free. The same works vice versa. The manner in which you oppress or enslave another is the same way it will be done for you.

“In everything, then, do to others as you would have them do to you. For this is the essence of the Law and the prophets”.

Your salvation, is highly tied to those you will save.

Abundance will be found in giving not hoarding.

You want a blessing? Become a blessing to your neighbor.

You want to receive whatever you wish for? Give to the one in need.

You want to be healed? Heal others with the fruits of the spirit.

You want to care for yourself? Do it by caring for others.

Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends”. 

“Self-care” is easily going to seduce our generation into egoism and narcissism. It is worsening the mental health conditions of people and if it were useful, then we should be doing way better than we are now as a global society.

Let us turn to each other with sincerity of heart and do the labours of love without murmuring. That is true self care.

When your neighbour does well in account of you, you will be and have the perfection you seek in THINGS.


  1. Salvation of the Lord. As you see the examples above.
  2. Deliverance in the times of trouble
  3. Protection of the Lord. He will protect your life and property
  4. You will be blessed upon the earth
  5. God will not give you over to the desires of your enemies
  6. God will sustain you upon your sickbed and in illness He will restore you to health
  7. In famine, the jar of flour will not be used up and the jug of oil will not run dry until the day the Lord sends rain on the land
  8. Opens room for a miracle and breakthrough. “Refresh and you will be refreshed”

If you look at the countries that are performing poorly, they oppress the poor and needy. On the other hand, those that are performing well, you cannot even tell the difference between the poor and the needy (it’s just the haves and have nots).

Countries that have a record of treating sojourners well perform and will continue to perform better than those that do not.

Self absorption is the reason we have bad leadership and relationships in the family, community, society and the globe at large.

Value people for your own good and treat them right without expectation from God or from them and your reward will be great.

As I have said before, you never know who is who. We live among angels and holy servants of God just like in the old days amidst brood of vipers and wolves. Treat people well and have discernment and wisdom.

Value of self is good but value of others is rightfully excellent.

Those that labor righteousness and strive gloriously for others, will get the crown of glory. Therefore, let us choose to run on the straight road, the incorruptible race of Love and in great numbers let us pass in to it and strive to receive the crown of life and glory.


I have observed a very interesting paradox in life.

The “Christian” who knows all of these things, will give but go ahead and gossip about it to others. They will blow their trumpets to be seen or heard that they give or help others. Some have even helped only to later on pursue the person they helped as though they were a robber. You may never have peace when you accept help from certain people because they give without good intentions. People such as these should not expect any rewards from the Lord and should return back on track.

On the other hand I have met people who I have never seen hold a bible or go to church but their conduct is excellent. As far as I have meticulously observed in measure with the Lord’s recommendations. One of these people, I value so much and to this very day I am convinced the person is an angel in disguise . I have never seen such kindness and in fact hospitality.

I have never heard them mention the good deeds they have done for others and having been helped myself, I have never been reminded even once of the help I received at my time of need.

I pray that people such as these, like the incident of the Shunamite woman will receive the Son as a reward and God will grant them the gift of faith to nurture this Son. In contrast, through the gift of faith, that brings obedience, may He never be lost. I also pray that in a time of famine, like the widow in Zarephath, they will not be in lack. In the time of violence, they will have peace and salvation like Rahab the harlot.

Showing kindness and hospitality in secret with a cheerful sincere heart is to us what the red string by the window was to Rahab the harlot.

So if you want to receive something bigger and better than “self-care, self-help, self-love and self-healing”, start looking for opportunities quietly and secretly without expectations, to lift others up rather than opportunities for face lifts, self-lifts among other lifts.

If you must do “self” let it be for SELF MASTERY so that you can excellently be SELFLESS.

In selflessness, you will find TRUE PEACE & TRANQUILITY, LOVE, HOPE, JOY, CONTENTMENT and a lot more that you didn’t know you needed.

Life is easier when you do good to others as though your life depends on it (because it does) and mind your own business.

Other than that, get outta here and go surprise somebody with your kindness. In secret. I also double dare you to be hospitable like the examples and my lady above. Nothing bad will happen to you if that has been your fear (hosting strangers). I believe anything you do for the Lord can never bring bad results. IF it’s coupled up with good intentions.

I revere the one that shows me or others kindness at my or their worst and consistently continues to be kind. I don’t like messing around with kind people because I see how God who glories in lovingkindness can be like when angry and I am aware we are created in His image.

So when I meet good people, I revere them to the bone. They make me tremble a little inside. I would rather sleep through a day than wake up to be an offence to people such as these.

On the other hand when it comes to wickedness… I feel like a lion.

Point in case, open up your arms to people and not yourself. In the middle of it, you will find you and all that you seek. Especially when you do it without any expectations whatsoever.

This too is part of the deliverance series by the way and here I just showed you what you do as the supernatural takes place.

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